About an hour ago (pretty recent, huh?), I was at home making dinner. Mike came home from work and we started talking about our day. Mike brought up the September 11th attacks. He said he was watching some old footage from ten years ago when the planes hit. As soon as he started discussing this, I felt solemn, sadness, and very down. My reaction was not something I would usually say or discuss, but I have to share with all of you. I hope this helps the way you look at sadness and hope you can turn a sad moment into a feeling of peace and harmony. Please be open to my reaction and remember I mean no disrespect for any of your thoughts, feelings, opinions or what happened that day.
Anyway, after Mike explained how yucky it was watching the footage and reliving it, I asked a simple question, “Then why did you watch it?” He commented about how the anniversary is here and we need to remember that day. I completely disagreed, and replied, “You mean to tell me that you would forget that day if you did not see that footage?” He started to reply, “No, but…” I interrupted, (I do that a lot), “Honestly, why would anyone want to feel crappy all over again? I only want to feel happy and wonderful and I refuse to relive that day.”
I say this with love and kindness. Our society is messed up. We thrive on grief, negativity, and watching devastating things. Our media is somewhat to blame for this. They replay tragic events over and over and we keep watching and watching. We enjoy “train wrecks”(not the actual tragedy of it, but the repetitive watching) and it is very disturbing. Instead of turning the TV off, we are glued to the catastrophe. I was a “train wreck” watcher for most of my life and like I stated in earlier blogs I could not get enough of the media’s latest story.
I respect and honor every person who passed that day. However I do not need to see over and over again planes smashing into buildings and people jumping out of buildings. The bumper sticker, “Never Forget” holds true in all of our lives. We will never forget, but please, please stop putting it on every station and news report. I think by honoring these people and sending love to their families is what I can contribute. Try and take all of that sad energy you get from watching the tragedy now and change it to happy energy for the families of the victims. When I am sending them love, I am not sending sadness or pity. I would hope that when our love ones go on to their next journey we are celebrating their previous time here and not grieving to the point where it is making our own source energy levels affect our well being.
I completely agree we should never forget those who died and in my heart I know that is impossible. September 11th was a day of sadness and tragedy. I also believe when we come into this world our journey is supposed to be complete happiness and peace. Events take place however and rattle our source. In order to remain peaceful we need to remember WE ARE IN CONTROL OF HOW THIS TRAGEDY DETERMINES THE REST OF OUR DAY, WEEK, MONTH OR YEAR! Does this make sense? I know for myself I have had tragedies strike and my reaction when these took place were not what they would be now. I cried, I screamed and with one specific tragedy I was affected for over a year! I finally realized, “What the hell am I doing?” I decided to take over my own attitude. The process was not easy, but very enlightening.
We are here with this journey for who knows how long. Don’t fill your space and time here with negativity, hating ,hurting, pain, pointing fingers, judging, talking about people, feeling crappy or anything that gets you out of your “Happiness Zone.” Sadness and grief are controllable emotions. We just need to learn how to control them and not let them dictate our lives. We need to come face to face with them and figure out where they stem from. Once we do this we can start the process of letting go and regaining control.
I have decided to make a conscious choice this next week and NOT watch any television or news casts about 9/11. Instead on this day I will light some candles, send love, say a prayer for all of those who suffered and passed. I will do this with a warm smile and feel nothing but love and joy. We all need more love and joy, so let’s try and pass the good feelings instead of talking about the bad feelings. If this writing insulted you or upset you in any way, please remember how you can control those feelings and turn them into joy instead of hate. Any negative feelings toward my writing or my feelings, please, please turn them into love and joy for those who passed, their families and of course you.
“Smiling to our pain is essential if we are not to drown in it.” Andrew Weiss
“The world is afflicted with death and decay; therefore the wise do not grieve knowing the terms of the world” Buddha…..