I cannot quite admit by me supporting Avery, buying her a Seattle shirt and buying myself a Seattle shirt that were was not some type of experiment in play. Let me tell you however, I wish I took notes on every reaction, post and comment that Avery and I received. Some funny, some very sad to say the least. I promise to share some at the end of this piece.
Avery's reaction last night when Russell Wilson through that interception through me back into senior year of high school. Just humor me and read along. I promise it will not be drawn out nor "whoa is me." The reason I want to go into throw back mode is for all of us to see how crazy and intense sports fans can be.(myself so not excluded) Picture this, January, 1989, Mr Roderick's Sport Lit class at good ol' Pinkerton Academy. Some of you can picture it! The NFL playoffs had just finished up and my Bengals(yes, my Icky Woods who celebrates everything) and the 49er's would be facing off in the Super Bowl. Needless to say, I knew who the better team was. I knew that stats, heard all of my class mates giving me crap, and through it all I still believed in my team because that is what you do for your favorite team.....BELIEVE! In the game of football we all know especially from last nights game that anything can happen in the blink of an eye and the whole game can turn everything from around to upside down or vice verse.
For two weeks everyday we discussed the upcoming Super Bowl. I believe there were maybe 20 of us in this class and only one, yours truly were cheering on the Bengals! So picture 10 days straight, going in and getting blasted from 19 others of how bad the the 49'ers would kill the Bengals. Even Mr. Roderick wasn't having my back.......(the stats were correct in this situation). Let me just say however, the final score was 20-16....( I am not sure if that made me feel better or worse). During this time before the game my confidence was getting a beat down but I would not let them see me sweat. Inside as each day was getting closer to the game I was getting more and more weary. I just wanted to taste that win. I wanted my moment of victory or rather the Bengals victory. There, I just said it. My victory? WTF? How crazy do we consume ourselves with this crap? It is a GAME! The only thing I was concerned about was my pride and of course my Ego being dinged. All I cared about was going to school on Monday after the big game and cramming my wishful victory in everyone's face. Instead I got served with everyone else's EGO pie. After the big game and my loss I actually considered not going to school.(That is how much of a coward I was) For 2 weeks all I did was talk smack and did not want to be the girl who heard, "Told you so" all week long.
The pain finally subsided. I did feel it a few more times throughout my life with the Red Sox(of course), and my Bengals the past few years with the playoffs. Last night however seeing my daughter after the loss was even worse than my Boomer/Icky demise. What made it heart wrenching was the fact that she wasn't a smack talker like myself back in the day. She doesn't like attention drawn to her in any way, positive or negative. She genuinely wanted this win because she became so attached to this team. For months she has been watching nothing but NFL Network. We have seen how Russell visits children in hospitals every Tuesday. How Pete Carroll believes in his team doing yoga or practicing meditation to stay in the present and learn how to believe in them selves as a team.(which was proven last night and in the NFC championship game). All of those Richard Sherman haters out there, did you know that he is just a big goof....(kind of like Manny Ramierez). He is not only sarcastic and funny, he is a super smart guy from Stanford. People think the Beast is a rude SOB.....maybe he is someone who dislikes media/interviews. He actually may just be a really great football player who only wants to play the game and not get caught up in silly interviews and is afraid of public speaking or saying something that may sound crazy as, "I'm just here so I don't get fined."lol Regardless of the Seahawks or Patriots players, they are probably down to earth guys who all we do is judge. I don't know, judging is something that occurs at all moments it seems. We all have been there and placed judgement. Honestly, isn't it completely petty and non-compassionate? Last night during the game, I was reading FB posts during the game and cringing. "Katy Perry's dress is not doing it for me'? "Seattle is a bunch of thugs"? Really?
I am getting off topic for a moment. During that last minute crazy fight did anyone notice other players start shooting their mouths off which may have created the first punch? So, which is worse? They are out on the field playing a game they love and hopefully somewhere in that brain of theirs know that they are supposed to be role models. Nope, words and punches were thrown regardless. The fans of the verbal team are blaming the other while the fans of the physical team are blaming the other. Quite honestly we should all be disappointed in both teams, and as parents teach our kids not to cheer that on, but use this as a lesson of how immature even adults can be. We are so one sided and fail to look at the entire situation or begin to even understand it. Sorry, that was my only rant....and it was not ego driven, just coming from a place of confusion.
Anyway, Avery decided this past Friday to wear her Seattle shirt, painted her nails blue and green and even had the orthodontist change her bands to blue and green. I was so proud of her choosing to go to a school of 2,000 kids, in New England, and doing it just because she was proud of her team. (as were the Patriot fans). Once she went off to school, I decided to put my Seattle shirt on also, knowing very well I would be receiving a ton of crap. I wasn't worried about me, but a bit about her. My day was filled with comments that were all in fun. Avery's comments that were said, I am sure were meant to be funny, but I wasn't so taken with them. One boy told her if she was a boy he would punch her for wearing her teams shirt. Okay, I can chuckle a bit because they are friends, and we need to not take things so seriously, right? The next comment I would love all of your thoughts and opinions on.......A kid actually told her, " If I were you, I would go kill myself." Really? Once again I am certain he meant no harm, but thank goodness Avery is a teenager with confidence and self esteem. What if another kid was told that who suffered from depression? I think that by wearing her shirt and supporting her team, she and I gained a lot from this "oopsy experiment".
The whole point of this piece is not who won or who lost. It is more than that. We need to understand how carried away we can get with our words and actions. I understand my Patriot fan friends are so excited and I am genuinely happy for all of you! I am thrilled that my 80 year old dad got to see another Super Bowl victory and those who love the PATS so much and may never see another. All I am asking is for those of you out there who are trash talking, be a good sport. We are all human and get carried away. If you could look in the past every once and awhile and see your reactions, comments or posts, would you be proud? Would you show them to your kids? How about your parents or someone you love?
The Pats and Seahawks played an amazing game. At the end, Avery was a bit nervous going back and facing a building filled with 2,000 kids and teachers who loves their Patriots. We talked for a bit and them she smiled a few minutes later and said, "there is always next year". Yes, there is............