Recently I had a conversation with a woman who was sharing her experience about her and her husband having to move her father in law into a nursing home. While they were in his home packing up his “things”, the husband was devastated beyond belief that all of his dad’s stuff fit in a box. The husband was having a hard time grasping this reality because all he remembered growing up was his father being smart, successful and having all of the “things” one could ever imagine. How could everything he worked for and earned throughout his life only fit in a box? What happened to make this occur?
I listened attentively and remembered something I had heard from Dr Wayne Dyer. In Dr. Dyer’s, Power of Intention series he explains how he once bought a suit coat jacket and took it home. Once he got home he cut all of the pockets off of it. The jacket is still in his closet and it is symbolizes how when we leave this world we take absolutely nothing with us. I told the woman this story and she could not wait to go home and share it with her husband. Why? All of the “things” we collect in this life, whether it is cars, clothes, successful careers, homes and other items do not make us who we truly are. Sadly that is what we are all conditioned to believe. We are not here to “get things done” or collect “things.” We are always manifesting in this lifetime and instead of it being about material items, try manifesting joy, love and happiness. The new 2nd home or the Prada bag may feel good for awhile, but it will not fit in a box and certainly will not provide you with love or true happiness. Simplify, Simplify and life gets easier, less stressful and way more joyful.
So how can we practice? I got these 2 tips from a Wayne Dyer blog and I chose to use my own thoughts and words about what they mean to me:
1. Practice Radical Appreciation- Go out to your garden or under a tree. Sit there and just appreciate what is around you at that moment. Do the same in your home and with your family. When you are making a meal, enjoy the process of it and know that this meal will be feeding your family. While you are eating this meal together, laugh, share and appreciate everything at that moment.
2. See Paradise All Around you- This is my favorite. Sometimes I dream of a far away land and beautiful countries that I want to visit. Instead, I need to see the beauty where I am at the moment. My paradise is my backyard. I have gardens, flowers, a pond and beautiful creatures all around me. Listening to pigeon doves brings me peace and I swear they are talking with me! I sound like a fruitcake but I don’t care! In my home I enjoy sitting in front of my meditation table. I have books on Gandhi, Buddha and other writings from Mother Teresa & the TAO. I am surrounded by nothing but peace and harmony. So look at YOUR paradise around you and smile.
Another thought, lose your technology for a day or even a half of day. Instead of going on line, go to a library and grab a book. Instead of putting your iPod on, sing to yourself or hum a tune you like. You can even just listen to nature’s music. It is all around us. Try going to visit someone rather than texting them or calling them. If you want to go to the gym, go outside instead. Climb a mountain or take a hike. Enjoy swimming more and feel the cold water embrace your body. For me thinking like a child works. I remember how happy I was when I was swimming, playing in a pile of dirt or just laying under a willow tree in amazement of its beauty and size. I want to conclude this writing with a “simply” funny story. (No pun intended)
A few years ago Mike, the kids and I went for a long hike in New Boston. We were pretending that this was our new environment and we needed to build a log cabin. We started collecting long broken and dead tree branches and made the formation of a cabin. It had 3 walls by the time we were finishing up with it for the day. We all sat in the middle of our “new home” and decided we were hungry. Of course I had brought snacks that were in my back pack; however we were really trying to “rough it.” Mike stood up grabbed an acorn, cracked it and popped it in his mouth. I was laughing so hard I had tears in my eyes but decided to join in. I grabbed a leaf, bit into it and chewed and swallowed. By now our kids were horrified but we were all in hysterics. Mike then stood up grabbed some tree bark, broke it in half and handed me a piece. We both looked at each other and bit into it! We finally decided to walk back towards our “real life” and we discussed how someday we would both love to live in the woods and off of nature. The conversation made my heart smile knowing how wonderful this would be someday. We got back to the truck, jumped in and Mike and I started cracking up at each other. Why? We had a ton of tree bark stuck in our teeth! Now that is simply living, enjoying and what a way to spend the day with those I love.
Please go buy a jacket, cut off all of the pockets and look at it each day! Just simplify and remember when we are 75, 80 or even 90 that fancy new BMW or new Tiffany ring is not making us who we truly are. Love and Peace to all of you……J