Yesterday, after my two morning boot camp sessions I was getting packed up and about to head home. Before I left I wanted to ask one of my co-workers, “What do you define as the secret to success for your clients?” I was specifically referring to weight loss and health. He paused for a quick second and said something quite powerful. “Well people either want to be or they just do. You always hear someone say I want to “Be” skinny, or I want to “Be” healthy. Others may say, “I want to “Be” strong or I want to “Be” the best on the field.” I thought about what he said and realized what it comes down to is you can be all you want, but doing is a whole different mindset. How profound.
Doing is an action, where being is just existing. I sometimes will tell people to “Just be.” When I say these two words I am merely noticing they are stressed out and need to just sit still, breathe, smile and be. Doing is where things happen and take place. When I was done talking to him I drove home and wondered am I someone who takes action? Or am I someone who is constantly saying, “I want to be….” I, like most are probably a bit of both and am working on changing that as we speak.
Now here comes the hard part without any sugar coating. What are you? Let’s be honest and understand that a lot of us say we are individuals that do, but as time goes by most of us are in the same place mentally, physically and emotionally years later. Doing is not easy. Doing makes you sweat, get uncomfortable, and look outside the box. If I had to guess the percentage of doing to being, being would have a much higher rate. Why? Why don’t we want to feel uncomfortable? Why do we routinely do the same thing each day and never get out of the funk? After sometime every once in awhile, we get frustrated and say, “That’s it! I am done being in the same place mentally, physically and emotionally. I need to get out.” Well for about a week you are doing great and feel amazing! The weekend comes and you feel you deserve a break from all of that “doing.” A whole five days and you deserve a break? Sounds like a beer commercial. Monday rolls around and you are fatigued from your deserving weekend with not only alcohol hangovers but food hangovers as well. You take Monday off and make at least 3 days of “doing.” It gets less and less each week and you are finally back in the “being” stage and are stuck in that cycle again. We all struggle with this cycle and it sucks! I am not here to light a fire under your ass or get you motivated. Unfortunately some of us are beyond that. I just want you to open your eyes to this cycle and try to feel it, recognize it and take action.
Let’s talk about health, nutrition and weight loss. This is a very sensitive topic for some, so please do not take anything personal that I share. As kids we are comfortable and eat what we want and hopefully get plenty of activity. Our teenage years follow and some still have a high metabolism and some not so much. Here come our roaring twenties. Most of us stop any and all physical activity, drink more, eat more and our metabolisms are slowly becoming our distant relatives. Right round thirty some of our lifestyles change and we “settle down,” get married, and have kids. We completely stop taking care of ourselves and notice we are a bit softer, slower, more tired and something funky is happening to our digestive systems where cannot tolerate the same foods we once enjoyed. Sound familiar? Our babies are little and our eating is way out of whack. We notice we are not only finishing our dinner but our little ones dinners as well. How did we lose such control? We feel and say our kids come first.(very noble). Now approaching the 4…0 clubs we ache are out of shape and someone we do not recognize. The kids come first is ass backwards! We should come first and foremost! By putting ourselves first we are not only stronger and healthy for our family, but also setting a great example to them. Now in our forties we say, “Oh I would love to “BE” ten pounds lighter, or I’d love to “BE” in better shape.” It is not too late! The beginning will be uncomfortable and hard like hell, but it can happen. It doesn’t depend on you wanting to “Be.” It all depends on getting up off your achy, soft ass and “DOING!”
Now that was the exercise segment. What’s next? Yup, you got it……NUTRITION. Get rid of the sugars, salts, trans fats, packaged “easy” foods and balance your carbs, proteins and fats. Don’t “do” it for five days and say, “Oh, I deserve to have that margarita and plate of nachos.” You will always be playing the “being” game if you do not get out of this cycle and DO! Having an emotional eating situation is not beneficial towards your journey. Enjoying your journey is complete satisfaction of every aspect of your life. Feeling complete, feeling gratitude, feeling joy and “DOING “ are successful ways for your time here right now. If you feel you deserve something, try to find something that will gratify you in the moment and after the moment as well. Those nachos and cold margarita will be an “in the moment” gratification, but soon after you will be pissed at yourself for losing your ability of control and will power. Try a run, walk in the woods, meditation time or something that makes you feel happy and peaceful in the moment and after.
Please don’t feel or ever say, “It’s too late.” The only thing you are telling yourself with that statement is, “I’m done and I am throwing in the towel.” If the cycle game is the game of your choice, good luck. If you want to do, then go for it! If you don’t know where to start, then do some research, ask questions and talk to someone who you know can help. Trust in yourself and know that if you want to “DO” bad enough you will not only figure it out, but SUCCEED as well!