Now during this "witnessing moment", I myself had another conversation taking place behind me with a father, his son and a friend. The boy's walked into D&D and the first thing I heard from the father and his thick Boston accent was, "Hey Anthony go get two of those Energy drinks for you and Joe." I hadn't seen the boys yet, but when they walked towards me to grab the drinks I was expecting to see older teenage boys. Nope, the boys were 11, maybe 12 tops. My judgement moment was kicking in hard at this time. The dad continued on with, "Anthony, we are going to be here a couple of days so grab some of those big protein bahhsss (bars). I want you to eat healthy." Really? Energy drinks and protein bahhs for kids? My head was spinning now and all I could say to myself was, "Hey Dad, why not grab some of those banana's or apples on the counter? There is also yogurt right next to you!" I kept that comment to myself. I am such a freaking Nazi when it comes to nutrition and what kids are choosing to eat. Right now the dad had me at a 10+ of AHHHHHHH on that scale! I tried, really, really tried to say to myself, "Sandi this is not your business, let it go. It seems like the Dad is at least trying for better options than donuts " That seemed to work for a couple of seconds or so until Anthony comes over and asks his Dad for a doughnut. The dad paused and said, "No, not a healthy choice and you just ate." Okay my judgmental opinion of dad was 20% on the mend.
I finally ordered Mike's coffee and turned around to leave. I was now face to face with Anthony, Joe and Dad and almost died when I saw them holding their energy drinks, protein bahhhs, and no lie, about 4 or 5 candy bars in their hands! I walked out, shaking my head and got into Mike's car. He asked what took so long and why I seemed pissed. I told him the entire story and he laughed and immediately said, "Who is being judgmental?"
I said only one word, "but"...........I then stopped, took a few breath's and realized what I was doing. The sad part is I didn't even realize it myself, Mike had to show me how I was acting. The dad at D&D hit my weak spot, nutrition. Man did I let my EGO have it's way those few moments. It sent me into a frenzy and I should of noticed, but didn't. Even if those boys ordered 3 dozen donuts, 14 candy bars and soda I should of let it go and just be. I sat there and tried to understand why I let affect me so much. Was it because I cared? Or was it because I felt I knew more than the dad about nutrition and was just having my "You idiot" moment on him. If I had to guess, it was the 2nd option unfortunately. I was feeling empowered about my knowledge and silently not being the change or very kind with my thoughts.
Alright now, come clean.......have any of you ever had these silent judgmental wars going on in your head? So, this week when you are playing the judgment game, notice it, stop yourself, BE AWARE, and let it go! That is this week's challenge and it is not an easy one. Noticing and being aware is the first step o keeping your EGO in line. Please keep us all posted with your comments. Communication on our page is exactly what some of us may need to see so we can relate and learn from each other's stories. Your situation may be eye opening and help someone else. Good luck and remember AWARENESS IS KEY!