Let's begin with who we surround ourselves with. We all have people in our lives with all of the scenarios I mentioned above, right? I think sometimes we forget that we also have choices of who we want to surround ourselves with. I know what you are saying right now, "But I have to hang out with so and so, or I can't ignore my family!" Please never ignore anyone! You can however either step back a bit, or if it is a complete unhealthy situation talk to them straight up without any anger and let them know you are forgiving them for their unkind ways and as of now need to spend some time away from them. Of course their reaction will probably not be pleasant, but if happiness is what you are going for, then you need to take action. Only you can do that, and you yourself do have the power. You just need to want it bad enough and not have fear of doing it. By holding on to positive relationships you will grow even more and slowly your life will rid itself of any blahs! Honestly, your careers, health and relationships will all line up in harmony once your remove the negativity!
Earlier I mentioned how certain things were popping up about this topic. Well, the other day someone came up to me and actually told me that it is easier to hate than to forgive and let go. What???? I was baffled for a few seconds but then realized that was me many years ago. If I did not see eye to eye with someone or had a confrontation with them, that was it. I had written them off whether it was my fault or their's and we were on each other's shit lists. The thing is, years went by and when there names came up or I bumped into them I immediately felt that "hate" from years before but instead of calling them or stopping them to say sorry, I wimped out because it was easier to hate despite me feeling like crap. So hating felt easier because of my cowardice. I will admit there are a couple of people who things went down with years ago in my life that I do still feel a bit uneasy about. I am not mad nor do I hate them and I hope they have forgiven me as I have forgiven them for whatever silly incident took place. I do send them love because this is easy and feels wonderful! I hope they have also moved on and have been able to let go of any hate. I pray that our paths do cross again so I can look them in the eye and smile, be kind and maybe begin a new chapter.
Now, I would like to touch upon how important our happiness depends on what we watch or read. Here is a couple of examples that I have witnessed with myself. Okay here it goes, you are driving and listening to the radio. A lot of times in the morning you are listening to DJ's, right? About 80% of the time they are either talking trash and bashing themselves or others. Usually it is Hollywood. Oh boy, look at Miley Cyrus and her twerking.........Can you believe those Kardashian's? Wow, look at how fat Kelly Clarkson is.......Tom Cruise is a freak.........Gisellle sure has her claws into Tom and is making so much more money than him........AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! All of this meanness and negativity makes me so sad. So your other option is to listen to the wonderful news, right? Obama Care, school shootings, bank robberies, and so much other yucky stuff! Want to know what I do? I swear, you can ask my kids......I either completely shut it off or put on my classical music.....really, classical! If I turn it off this is where I say my thank you's, I AM"s, and send love out to the universe. Lately I have been posting "I AM's" on my FB page. By stating I am kind, I am peace, I am love or whatever I am you want to be, you will feel calmer inside and throwing it in with gratitude's you will arrive at your destination much more peaceful. I also do this as soon as I lay down at night. I usually do this practice for 10 minutes and BAM, I am calm. Honestly, this is the best free medicine I have ever taken! Yes we all have circumstances, problems, confrontations and other life altering issues. Please do not think I am undermining or being disrespectful of your situations.....I am only trying to offer some happy advice that may actually help you. If we all understood the power of our thoughts, I know we would all work on what it is we think about.
My next pop-up moment regarding this topic is Face Book and how my thoughts are affected with what I am reading. Please do not be offended if you are posting what I will be discussing. This blog is for a complete happy 2014, and I just am trying to send out awareness so we know when you are writing it, you must be feeling it, and that means you are not in a happy mode for 2014, right? lol........Alright, here we go. I wake up in the morning, get out of bed and get things done for kids, hubby, myself etc. I decide to check out my FB page, and the first thing I see is how Obama sucks, pictures of abused animals or abused kids, bitching and moaning about whatever and wherever, catch my drift? I am immediately feeling my stomach clenching, and I know right there I need to either sign off or find a freaking happy post quick! So, guess what? It is my lucky day! I read about how someone paid for someone's coffee, or a random act of other kindness. I go further and see a funny cartoon post or someone's child just said something super funny or did something absolutely adorable! Okay, my day started crappy, but the more I read, it got better. The key is, I want to feel only happiness, especially starting my day! Don't get me wrong, yes sometimes I do get cranky, but I know when I feel it I can get out of it quick because it does not feel good. Like I always say, "This is a choice, everything is a choice. You can choose to feel good or feel bad."
So, what are you reading, watching or dealing with? Are you strolling along with it and not letting it affect you? Or do those little negative reads or TV put you over the edge and make your day a complete misery? Maybe you do not even realize that it is outside sources that are creating your unhappiness. Stop and take a looksie. When you feel the rage, try using the 10 minute talking method with sending love, gratitude and I AM's. I am not blowing smoke up your ass, this shit really works! Being happy is not rocket science. We just need to know how to deal with others and other sources that tweek us. Once we learn this the rest gets a bit easier as we go on. I do respect that for some of us this may be a bit more difficult due to depression or other heavy stuff going on in your lives. If this is the case, you need to do what is best for you! Trying simple acts of gratitude and sending love will not hurt by any means.
So here we are, it is 2014 and you have a huge list of resolutions. Please try and put being happy before any of your other's and see how the other's will fall into place much easier. I will leave you with this last item that popped up when I finally decided to write about being happy, "The grumpier you are, the more assholes you meet." Now do you get it? Good luck and I hope everyone has an amazing 2014! "Don't Worry, BE HAPPY!" PEACE!